Recently, I have discovered that one thing I love doing almost more than anything is talking with people. Now I know those who know me are thinking that I should have always known this, because it is so apparent. Seriously though, there are only a few things I love more than talking with people. Now I don’t mean small talk, because that is fun but it usually seems fake and forced and I don’t like that. I am talking about honest to goodness conversation between people who are interested in sharing their lives with each other. I love hearing about other peoples lives, their struggles and joys and just how they see the world. You can learn so much about a person by just listening to them and looking them in the eyes while doing it. Something happens when you look someone in the eye as if you are telling them that you are genuinely interested in what they are saying and going through. Listening is something that I need to work on although it is something I sincerely enjoy. I love listening and giving advice when its needed, lending a helping hand when I can and just sharing my life with others. Also I love just being there for people, even when that means being silent and just giving them a hug. It is seriously a joy that cam come from no one but God.
God made us for realationships. He doesn’t want us to go through things alone. This is why he gives us people who we can depend on, to be the Jesus in our lives when it seems like He isnt speaking to us, although He is. He is sooo good. He knows exactly what we need and what we were made for. I truly believe that we were made ultimately for realtionships. This is why having good friends and being a good friend is so important. I am so relationship oriented that I can hardly be near someone for 5 minutes without talking to them about something. I guess it doesn’t help that when I get nervous, awkward or excited I just talk faster and more!
When thinking about one of my dream jobs, Being a professional talker and listener is near the top of my list although I know that job doesnt really exist.
I love being in relationship with people so much because I learn so much about God, myself and just life in general when I am cultivating deep relationship with people. It is just one of the most fulfilling things. It can also be hard becasue when you do this you are vulnerable and this can sometimes lead to hurt. But you know what, I think it is worth it no matter what. I have been hurt pretty badly by a few relationships, mostly because of how much time and effort and value I placed on those friendships whereas they over time didnt. I still think those relationships were worth it, because good or bad I learned so much from them. I am all about learning. I have recently been forced to think of experiences, any kind, as good because they have taught me life lessons that i wouldn’t have experienced otherwise.
I really hope that when I become a nurse my patients are good listeners or at least good talkers because I cant imagine being in a profession where talking isnt encouraged. haha.
I know this post is getting really long but I love talking, remember? haha. Anyways I am the happiest when I am talking and cultivating relationships with people I care for deeply or even those I have just met.
I also love finding out how my friends like to receive love. You would be suprised about how much easier it is to be a good friend when you know this about your friends. A lot of times the way you like to show your live isnt the way they feel loved. For instance one of my friends told me once that she doesnt like receiving love via words of affirmation (encouragement). This opened my eyes because this is one of my favorite ways to give love. She said the way she feels most loved is by time spent with her. Ever since then I have been trying to spend time with her instead of telling her what I love and appreciate about her. You know what, we have become better friends because of it!! It is awesome! I love having friends with different personalities and because of this they have different love languages. Another friend of mine says that she likes words of affirmation and talking, almost as much as I do, but she likes it when people give her their full attention when they are talking to her. She likes them to look in her eyes because this gives her the impression that they are truly interested in what she has to say. I have been trying to do this more often when I talk to her becasue I want to love her in the best way that she receives loves, becauses than she truly knows how much I love her.
I recieve love best when people spend time with me also when they give me sincere words of affirmations, also physical touch ( i know thats like three but I cant decide between them). Coincidentally I also love showing love in this same ways. I love writing my friends letters even when they live in the same city as me.
Friends teach me soooo much and that is why I love them so much, especially the good friendships I have been making and cultivating lately!!! I think that some of these are going to turn into life-long friendships and those are my favorite kind!!! :)